I still remember a compliment Sean gave me years ago. He told me I was more beautiful than the most beautiful sunset.
So go ahead – imagine the most beautiful sunset (my Facebook feed was recently filled with pictures of a gorgeous Seattle sunset!!). Now that you have that image in your head, go look at my Facebook profile picture. The fact is, his flattering compliment just isn’t true. No, I don’t have a low self-esteem. Yes, I still think I’m pretty. But no, I don’t think I’m more beautiful than even the least beautiful sunset. Therefore, I didn’t believe him.
I argued with him (imagine that!) and explained that his compliment just wasn’t true. But I appreciated the fact that he was being sweet and romantic. He was a little offended so he defended himself by telling me that he wasn’t lying. Instead, he asked me why I couldn’t believe him. So to give him the benefit of the doubt, I had to trust that he was telling the truth, even though, factually, I knew it couldn’t be true.
But then I had this crazy realization that God probably thought I was more beautiful than the most beautiful sunset. After all, I’m a human created in His image, with a soul and spirit. Does He take more joy and delight in me than a sunset? I think so. With that revelation, I started to believe Sean a little more.
Then I had Brooklyn (now 11 months old), and I think she’s more beautiful than the most beautiful sunset. Physically, she’s just a small human, so how could she possibly be more beautiful than a gorgeous sunset? But somehow, there’s no comparison. So I began to believe Sean’s compliment even more and better understand his viewpoint.
Isn’t it odd how unattractive and imperfect we view ourselves compared to how we view our significant other, our children, and our friends? Why can’t we see our own beauty? Why can’t we see our own worth? Why can’t we see how valuable we are?
The reason we can’t see ourselves accurately is because we’re looking through the wrong lens.
- We look through the lens of society: we’re never good enough, perfect enough, talented enough, smart enough, beautiful enough, rich enough, etc.
- We look through the lens of past relationships: we feel shame, embarrassment, humiliation, rejection, etc.
- We look through the lens of mean family members: we never felt beautiful, cruel words were used against us, there was abuse, there was favoritism, but never in our favor, we were doubted, nothing was ever expected from us.
Instead, we must look through the lens of our Creator. We must see ourselves how He sees us. At first, we may not believe what He says about us because it sounds too good to be true. But His view is the truth. What that means is that His perspective is 100% accurate. Any other view is false.
He sees you as worthy, as gifted, as good enough, as beautiful, as valuable. If we don’t intentionally view ourselves through God’s lens, then our default will always be someone else’s lens. And unless that person helps you see yourself the way God sees you, it’s going to be an inaccurate view.
It’s time to retrain our brain in order to see ourselves the way God sees us:
“For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” (Ephesians 2:10)
“This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun!” (2 Corinthian 5:17)
“So God created human beings in his own image. In the image of God he created them; male and female he created them.” (Genesis 1:27)
“You are the salt of the earth.” (Matthew 5:13a)
“You are the light of the world.” (Matthew 5:14a)
“God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God.” (2 Corinthians 5:21)
* All verses are taken from the New Living Translation.