Online dating has lost much of its stigma since Match.com first came on the scene in 1995. Even though it’s become a norm for our generation, for some, it’s still a humbling experience to create an online profile. Regardless of how you feel about it, you can’t argue with the fact that people have actually met their SPOUSE online! That in itself is motivation enough to at least try online dating.
So is it for you?
The best way to make a tough decision is to make a list of pros and cons, and make your final decision based off that list. So I’ve created a small list, in this post and next, of what I think are the main pros and cons. I’ll discuss the first ones in this post:
Pro #1: Online dating is a tool you can use to help you meet your mate.
- That’s it. That’s all it is. If you aren’t finding someone you want to date in your social world and you don’t plan on moving anytime soon, then try online dating.
- It’s not a magic fix for your problems…if you’re not a nice person, it’s going to become evident either online or in person. Eventually, who you are will be found out. Online dating won’t magically fix your problems…it’s just a tool to introduce you to more people.
- You still have to maintain the relationship offline in order for the relationship to work.
Con #1: Online dating is humbling.
- It’s a hard decision to make to go online. You finally have to admit to yourself that you aren’t meeting anyone in person, so you may as well try online.
- You want a man to like you enough in your social world that he wants to pursue you, and if that’s not happening it’s frustrating and humbling. Or you want a woman to like you back and think you’re good enough for her, but that’s not happening. So…online it is.
- Humility is an amazing trait to have and sometimes the most humbling experiences are the most rewarding. Remember, the end goal of marriage is worth more than your pride.
These are the first, most obvious, pros and cons for online dating. If you’ve chosen to create a profile, even though it’s humbling, good for you. With an open mind, a humble heart, and a non-judgmental attitude, you’ll be open to online prospects and could actually be a success story! But if you go into it with the attitude of trying to prove yourself right because you’ve told yourself online dating won’t work for you, but everyone is hassling you to try it, then guess what? You’ll prove yourself right. You won’t meet anyone, you’ll judge everyone, and you’ll give up, telling everyone else, “I told you so.”
Be humble, be open to any outcome, and learn from the experience.
In my next post, I’ll discuss a couple more pros and cons to help you determine if online dating is for you!