I noticed a pattern when I was single. Single girls that seemed to get asked out often were girls that were confident, easily engaged in conversation with men, appeared to enjoy life, and seemed to want friendship with the opposite sex. The girls who appeared “stuck-up,” whether it was due to their own insecurities or lack of interest in that particular (or every) man, were rarely even approached by men. They didn’t seem to like men, didn’t appear to want friendship with them, were possibly afraid of them or confused about how to act around them, and could never initiate or even hold a conversation with them.
If you think you’re a catch, which you probably are, but aren’t getting asked out, do you know why? Is your gut reaction to that question to blame the lame, passive Christian men you’re surrounded by? If so, I’m definitely going to challenge your blame-shifting tendencies.