Some people have this amazing ability to be themselves from the get-go. They’re confident, fun, engaging, playful and vulnerable. Most, however, have a difficult time just being themselves, especially on a date. Instead, they’re nervous, concerned about what the other person is thinking, a little unsure, and maybe a little awkward.
I know you don’t think you are. Of course you don’t expect your spouse to be perfect. You’re way too logical and rational for that kind of thinking. But your friend Susie somehow snagged a pretty great guy, and she has way more issues than you. And somehow Joe attracted one of the most eligible bachelorettes on the market, at least in your opinion. And he’s kind of a dud. So…you can find someone at least as good as whom they found.
Not perfect of course.
People break up. Relationships fail. Promises are broken. People walk away.
But when something isn’t meant to be, it’s 100% better for someone to walk away while dating than while married. And it’s better for the relationship to end than to stay in a discontent, unhappy state.
So, maybe you’re in a committed relationship, and you’re wondering if you should walk away. You’re pretty sure marriage is not in your future, and you wonder if you should be the one to end the relationship. Maybe you’re confused by your own feelings, or lack thereof. Maybe you’re unsure of the next step to take in your relationship. And maybe you’re scared to walk away.
Well, here are 5 signs to look for to help you decide if you should walk away:
When it comes to choosing to love and marry a significant other, one must also choose to compromise. The question isn’t whether you will have to compromise or not. The question is, what are you willing to compromise?
We’ve all had those friends that we “love,” but can only handle so much of. They have personality quirks that conflict with our own personality quirks. So our love for them is very conditional…we aren’t willing to compromise hardly anything for them because our love for them isn’t strong enough. In my opinion, that’s ok. We can’t be best friends with everyone!
Love is a funny word. It has so many different definitions to so many different people. Some fall in love extremely easily, while others never seem to be able to love. So then, what is love? And how do you know if you’re in love? Well, I asked a few people how they knew they were in love, and these are their answers:
In my previous post, I talked a lot about the importance of praying for marriage. It’s just that Christians sometimes get confused as to how much they should rely on God to answer their prayers and how much of their own “Doing” is too much. We think, “If I believe God will do this for me, then I don’t have to do anything, or at least shouldn’t do too much.” Or, “I’m tired of waiting on God and I’m losing my faith in His promises, so I’m going to have to make this happen myself.” Both of these beliefs are incorrect.
Faith and Action go hand-in-hand. Period. When God gives you a promise, you always end up acting on that promise. Gideon tore down idols, Abraham had sex, Noah built an ark, Jesus’ followers waited in the upper room, and so on. God is the one who performs the miracle.
So…what is it that you can do without feeling like you’re taking matters into your own hands? (more…)
Our faith grows quickly when we are in desperate situations. We’re stirred to action. We’re compelled to pray with other Christians and to seek counsel. We seek God’s face day and night, memorizing Scripture and lining up our thoughts to His Word so as not to get discouraged or lose faith. Since we’re only human and have great limitations in our willpower, discipline, and diligence, we must rely on God’s grace to get us through difficult seasons of life.
But when it comes to the desire to be married, too often we dismiss this as a worthy point of prayer. We say, “I trust God. It’ll happen when it happens.” Or, “I know God’s timing is perfect, so I’m not worried.” That’s great that you trust God and are at ease with your singleness. But that doesn’t mean you should stop praying. If you want to get married but aren’t, then you’re in a desperate situation. Let me explain…
Delays happen in many areas of life. Whether it be traffic, delayed flights, or even waiting in line at your favorite restaurant. Our response to delay shows who we really are. Think back to the last time you were stuck in traffic. How did you react? What about a flight delay? Or even when you thought you could get in to that restaurant, and an hour later you still weren’t in?
Stephanie’s been a Christian most of her life. She’s always dated Christian men – those who love Jesus and have a personal relationship with Him. But when Drew came into her life, he had everything she ever wanted in a spouse. He had a vision for his life. He had an amazing family. He was kind and considerate. He even believed in God and joined her for church sometimes. The problem was that he just went to church…he didn’t actually profess Jesus as his Savior, nor did he have a personal relationship with Him.
Stephanie had a choice to make. Does she continue her relationship with Drew, or break it off with him and wait for someone else who doesn’t just believe God is real, but confesses Jesus to be his Savior?