Are You Ready for Marriage?
Yes. The answer is always a resounding yes. Many people truly believe that they are ready for marriage, and it’s the other person they’re waiting for. Though that may be true, it’s helpful to look inward to find out if we are truly ready to commit ourselves to someone for the rest of our lives. So I’ve come up with 8 signs that you are ready for marriage:
- You’re open to someone who doesn’t fit the ideal image you have in your head.
- You’ve matured to the point where you realize you can knock some items off your list that don’t actually matter.
- You’re willing to become selfless.
- It’s easy to say you’re ready for selflessness, but until you’re in a relationship, it’s hard to fully understand what selflessness is.
- You’re ready to compromise.
- This goes hand-in-hand with #2. It’s hard to give up your schedule, your way of doing things, your hobbies, or your plans for the day or weekend or whenever for someone else. Learn the game of give-and-take.
- You’re emotionally and mentally able to deal with imperfection.
- Of course you would say you are. But, really, are you? Other people’s flaws are annoying, and when you’re married to someone who has flaws, those flaws affect YOU. It’s harder than it sounds to love, accept, forgive, and even kindly confront the love of your life. (If you aren't a perfectionist like me, this may not apply much to you!)
- You love yourself for who you are.
- If this is true for you, you won’t settle for someone who doesn’t love you well. You’ll also be able to accept your flaws and love yourself in spite of them (this skill will help you love others in spite of their flaws as well).
- You give the guy (or gal) that likes you a chance.
- When you can get past the “he likes me, but I don’t like him” dance, you’ll find someone you want to marry. Of course, this doesn’t mean you have to like everyone that likes you, but a mature person is willing to give that person an opportunity at winning over their heart.
- Your heart is open to love.
- If you’re dealing with a broken heart, you may need healing before moving forward. Or if you’re harboring bitterness, resentment or some other negative emotion towards the opposite sex, it’ll be difficult for you to allow yourself to love.
- You understand that marriage is a risk and you’re willing to take that risk.
- You won’t get a guarantee that everything will work out the way you want it to. You have to trust God, trust yourself, and trust your significant other, and take that step of faith towards marriage.
Of course, there are many other signs that you’re ready for marriage, but I think these are the most important. And if you're excelling in all these areas, good for you! Even if you're excelling in just a few, at least that means you’re on the right track!